Selecting a wedding band was once a straightforward affair. The only real decisions regarded size and engraving. A gold band was a gold band. Larger or smaller, bought at a pawn shop or jeweler, it was adiaphora – a matter of indifference. And as a pastor, the language used in the wedding service at the giving of the rings was also straightforward.
The ring is a visible symbol of the spiritual covenant that you are making today before God. The ring will serve for you, and for your children, and for all who see it as a reminder of the purity and the permanence of your marriage covenant.
Like the gold in the ring which symbolizes purity and beauty, your love for one another is to be pure — unmixed and uncompromised by any other priorities, second only to your love for Christ. And like ring whose shape, the circle, has neither beginning nor end, you are covenanting today, before God, to enter into a marriage that is permanent and unbreakable.
[Groom], one day when your children see your ring and ask you what it means, you can tell them that it is a symbol of your promise to love and cherish their mother for all time and that it is to be a reminder to them that you will never leave them or forsake them.
And [Bride], when your children see your ring and ask you why you wear it you can tell them that it is a symbol of your promise to love and respect their father and that it is to be a constant reminder to them of your loving, unbreakable commitment to your family.
The gold in your ring may get scratched from time to time, but its beauty and luster will endure. In the same way there will be trials in your relationship as you learn what it means to live as one-flesh, but your ring will be a constant testimony to you that God has brought you together for keeps.
But now, during pre-marital counseling, I know to ask, “what type of ring will you have?” While the design of the ring does not define its value, the liturgy must acknowledge that gold is no longer a given. Millennials opt for titanium, silicone, and even tattoos. And nothing says ‘permanence’ like a tattooed wedding band.
While I don’t jibe with everything the in her blog, I appreciate what Laura Ulveling writes in a post promoting GrooveLife alternative rings.
Your ring is simply a universally recognized symbol to show the world and each other that you have committed your life to someone. Whether the wedding ring you chose is cheap or extravagant, gold or platinum, diamond or silicone, its design has no impact on its value.
Even if you decide to exchange traditional wedding rings at the altar, you can still order a set of Groove rings for your adventurous days so you don’t lose your diamonds while you’re climbing waterfalls or deep-sea diving on your honeymoon!
A ring’s design has no impact on its value. Signs illustrate. Seals authenticate. A wedding ring is a sign and seal of the covenant of marriage. The ring does not make you married and the absence of one does not remove that covenant. But the ring does point to the undeniable fact that you belong to someone. The ring can’t make you a spouse, but it can make you a liar. You have made and received promises. And those promises define everything about your life.
In the Bible, one of the pervasive analogies of faith is that of husband and wife. In the Old Testament, the Lord says to his people, “I will be your God and you will be my people.” This is the wedding vow of the ancient world. God is the husband to his people. The New Testament picks up this analogy. The church is the bride of Christ. God makes a covenant of grace with his people. A promise is made and sealed with his own blood in the person of Jesus. And this promise changes everything.
But there are days when life crashes in. Our experience seems to contradict or nullify God’s promises. Can we trust his promises? Can we trust him? Is God a faithful spouse? And when I am not faithful, will he still love me and keep his vows? Psalm 103 declares that the Lord knows our “frame, that we are but dust.” Yet, even in our spiritual fragility, he has compassion on us and shows steadfast, unwavering, unbreakable love. To shore up our flagging faith and soothe our doubts, he gives us signs and seals – reminders of what he has promised and assurances that he is as good as his word.
In the Old Testament God gave repeated sacrifices and sacred spaces to teach the people to expect a once-for-all savior who would secure all God’s gracious promises. Now, he has given us clearer signs and seals – baptism and the Lord’s Supper. But their purpose is the same, to point us to his promises and assure us of his faithfulness.
In Jeremiah 32, the prophet is in a hopeless place. It’s the eleventh hour. Jeremiah’s prophecies of doom and judgment are unfolding. The Babylonian army has laid siege to Jerusalem. Jeremiah has been imprisoned for treason. But God gives a personal, yet puzzling, word to Jeremiah. His cousin will offer a piece of land for sale. Jeremiah has the right of redemption, but this was no time for land speculation. The market hates uncertainty. And nothing is more uncertain than a Babylonian invasion. But Jeremiah is instructed to purchase the plot, seal up the deed, and store it away for safe keeping. Nothing about this deal makes any sense.
Jeremiah obeys, but struggles with the ‘why.’ Yet in this simple act, God offers a sign and seal that grace, not judgment, is the last word. Join us this week as we examine Jeremiah 32 and consider the importance of signs and seals as a means of grace for us. We meet from 5:00 – 6:30 pm in The Commons at St. Andrews Anglican Church at 8300 Kanis Rd in Little Rock for worship. Get directions here or contact us for more info. You can also join us on Facebook Live @RiverCityARP.